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So about this whole 'dating a shorter/taller person' I feel more comfortable if my significant other was taller than me so that way I wouldnt have to worry about my height and I could feel comfortable
I understand that you have a preference and the acceptance of others tends to help you feel comfortable with yourself but at the same time you, yourself, will have to embrace and accept your height to be fully comfortable with it.
A significant other, no matter how perfect, beautiful, and good they are to you or even if they tell you how beautiful, perfect and good you are to them, if you’re worried about your height and a bit uncomfortable with it, you’re the only person that can fix that…no one else.
Think of it as, “How can you love someone else if you don’t love yourself?” Same thing in my opinion.
But what if he was short and built like this guy? *points down*
I’m kidding. I understand. It’s what you’re attracted to and it’s what you prefer.
See! I knew I had shorter followers!
I’m glad you love the blog! I really appreciate it!
I can only imagine your mom and her side of the family’s height if you’re the tallest.
also, i wouldn't mind dating someone who's 5'7 or below, and my cousin's 5'11 and her boyfriend is 5'9 :)
No, you’re not one of my shortest. An anon just told me their height and beat you hahaha. And yes! That’s good. That’s good that’s you don’t mind the height difference of any kind! :)
I appreciate you loving the blog hun!
While posting many problems and concerns that tall people go through, I try to make sure the posts are as relatable as possible since I have a diverse group of tall people following the blog; straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, ladies, gents, etc, etc.
Even a couple of short people I believe.
But what I have noticed is this stigma against dating someone that’s shorter than you. Since I’m a tall, straight lady, who has a good amount of ladies that are attracted to men following this blog, it’s a bit easier to speak from that perspective. However, I would love for this to go around and we have a civil tall/short/average height folk discussion going on around here. That way we have more perspectives adding their sides and POV’s to this.
I have a couple of posts on this blog voicing the frustration and concern of finding a love interest that is taller than us. Coming from a lengthy straight female, I can say that yes, I had been height-biased on who I would rather date and, of course, it would be a taller man. One that is above 6’0 ft. As I’ve grown, and managed this blog I’m more open to dating anyone no matter the height. Why? Simple.
Who said dating someone shorter is bad?
Society?
The year is 2011 and we’re breaking social norms and “rules”.
So why do we allow ourselves and the opinions of others to dictate who we want to love? What’s really wrong with shorter men or even shorter women? Their height? Is it their fault that they’re shorter than average? Is it our fault that we are taller than average? Of course not.
It’s kind of silly and vain to allow height to be the deciding factor of who we love. If height is the make-or-break point in meeting people then we’re missing out on meeting some incredible persons due to our height-bias.
I can understand that some of us can’t really see ourselves dating someone that’s a foot shorter than us. I get that some of us want to hug our partners without having to bend down. I see where some of us are coming from when you want to be the one to rest your head on someone’s chest when standing up. I know that you don’t want to get the jokes or the, “Well, one looks like they could be the parent to the other” due to the height difference but c’mon. If you love the person do you think you would really give a damn what the world thinks? Of course not. Everyone outside of your relationship is a non-factor.
And besides, everyone’s the same height when laying or sitting down.
Plus…once you get to know someone their height isn’t that much of a big deal anymore.
I understand if you have a preference and some people attract you and others don’t because the truth of the matter is, if they don’t interest us with their looks right off the bat then we’re not that interested at all (it’s a bit sad but true). However, don’t let height be the MAIN thing to look out for when dating because you’re pigeon-holding yourself and missing out on meeting people that are truly amazing…whether they’re 4’11 ft, 6’9 ft, in between, under, or above.
What do you all think?
Feel free to add your cents and dollars in.
(Source: tall-ppl-problems)
Of COURSE not!
I was going to make a post about this…Still am.
Tonight.
So you all stay tuned!
And thanks so much for loving the blog! :)
